A message to Survivors

I know that feeling angry, feeling betrayed, and having the desire to seek justice are all very valid emotions. I’ve had them myself. Please know however, that this foundation is not about organizing protests, it’s not about finding a lawyer to represent you and it’s not about fighting the Catholic Church. Those battles can be physically and emotionally draining and in most cases, can be self defeating. There are two main factors that differentiate this foundation from other clergy abuse organizations out there. First, it’s run by a survivor. I’m already familiar with the devastation that has impacted so many aspects of your life as a result of being sexual abused and betrayed by someone who we thought was as close to God as a man could possibly get. Second, it seems like every other organization out there related to victims of clergy abuse is about finding the best lawyer, protesting the priests and bishops or battling the diocese to try and get justice. Those actions will not provide the immediate help you need. People in this country (and around the world for that matter) know that dealing with the ramifications of clergy sexual abuse is a crisis of epic proportion and they want to help. I’m providing a simple, peaceful way, by contributing to this foundation, that we can collectively come together and have a massive positive impact on your journey to healing.

FROM DARKNESS INTO LIGHT FOUNDATION is about hope and healing, not about fighting and protesting. It’s about helping you get your head above water so you don’t feel like you’re drowning. It’s about helping you realize that there is a pathway that exists that can take you from someone who is just trying to survive in this world, to someone who can thrive in this world. God has a purpose for your life and it’s much greater than just trying to survive day after day as you struggle with the ramifications of the abuse you suffered.

Personally, I’m just a broken, messed up human being who struggles every minute with the widespread consequences of the sexual abuse I suffered. But one thing’s for sure, I bring my brokenness and my struggles and lay them at the feet of Jesus and ask for healing. I want to help you see the value in doing the same thing with your struggles. Please let me share my personal testimony with you and give you a glimpse into how my faith has helped me on my journey toward healing. There’s no doubt in my mind that God’s heart was breaking for us every time that we endured our abuse, and if there’s such a thing as God shedding tears, I would say He was shedding tears for us as well. God did not do this to us, perverted and sick human beings did. We all have free will and some of us choose good and some choose evil, we were the victims of priests that chose evil. They took our innocence away at such a young age and set us on the path of a life filled with devastating consequences. For those who have walked away from your faith, I truly believe that God is desperately wanting you to come back to Him. If you need confirmation of this, open your bible to Luke 15:4-6 which says: “What man among you, who has a hundred sheep and loses one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the open field and go after the lost one until he finds it? When he has found it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders, and coming home, he calls his friends and neighbors together, saying to them, “Rejoice with me, because I have found my lost sheep!”

He’s waiting to rejoice with you.

(If you do not own a bible and would like one, the Foundation will provide one for you)

National Suicide Prevention Line

I hope you’ll take a few minutes to watch this video. The song “Survivor”, which is sung by Zach Williams who is an award winning Christian music artist, is the perfect anthem for us as survivors.  I hope you find it inspirational.